Pupil Support to Address Bullying Type Behaviour

Information to support children and young people experiencing and/or displaying bullying type behaviour.

What should I do if I need help?

If you're feeling overwhelmed, unsure, or just need someone to talk to, you're not alone—and there are people who care and want to help.

  • Talk to Someone You Trust: Speak with someone who can listen and support you, like:
    • A friend
    • A parent or carer
    • A family member
    • Your Form Tutor
    • Class Teacher
    • Head of Year
    • Head of Pastoral Care
    • Any adult you feel safe with
    • You can also send a private message through your school's communication app (e.g. Seesaw, Google Classroom, ClassDojo).
       
  • Keep a Record: Write down what’s been happening. If you experience inappropriate online communication:
    • Report it to the social media platform
    • Block the user
    • Do not respond
       
  • Find New Connections: Explore opportunities to meet new people by joining:
    • Morning clubs
    • Lunchtime activities
    • After-school groups

These can be great ways to build friendships and boost confidence.

  • Stay Positive: You’ve taken a brave step by speaking up. Keep focusing on the good things in your life:
    • Celebrate what makes you unique
    • Practice positive self-talk
    • Try stress-relieving activities like exercise, meditation, or hobbies you enjoy
       
  • Get Involved in School: Consider speaking to your student council about:
    • Starting a peer support scheme
    • Creating a student-led committee to promote wellbeing

What should I do if a friend needs help?

Being there for a friend who’s struggling can make a big difference. Here’s how you can support them:

  • Listen with care – Give your friend space to share what’s bothering them. Just being there matters.
  • Reassure them – Let them know it’s okay to talk about their feelings and that they were brave to open up.
  • Encourage them to seek help – Gently suggest they speak to a trusted adult or member of staff.
  • Offer to go with them – Sometimes, just having someone by their side makes it easier to ask for help.

What happens when you speak to a teacher or member of staff?

If you share a concern with a teacher, classroom assistant, or any trusted adult at school, you’ll be listened to with care and respect. The staff, alongside school leaders, will work in a supportive and relational way to help everyone involved.

Here’s what you can expect:

  • You’ll be invited to share what’s worrying you in a safe and private space.
  • Staff will keep a secure digital record of what you’ve shared and any agreed support plans.
  • They’ll help identify whether the behaviour described is socially unacceptable or could be considered as bullying type behaviour.
  • A support plan will be created in partnership with you and your parents or carers, focused on helping all children involved and putting an end to any unwanted behaviours.

Primary & Post Primary Guides

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Addressing Bullying Type Behaviour in School - Primary Pupil Leaflet

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Addressing Bullying Type Behaviour in School - Post Primary Pupil Leaflet

Last updated: 01/12/2025